Friday, August 3, 2012

Everyone Needs a Support System

Everyone needs a support system,
whether it's family or friends.
I recently had surgery to have my gall bladder removed. This was my first experience having any type of surgery and being in a hospital other than when I had my daughter years ago. It was very different being on the patient side, receiving all of the concern and support from family and friends. 

While I was in the hospital, I was never alone. I had my husband and daughter right there checking on me, making sure I didn’t lift anything or do too much. My parents arrived soon after I got home from the hospital and they never left my side. 

All of them were always available to help with whatever needed to be done. I didn’t have to worry about anything other than myself, and resting. 

This experience really made me realize how fortunate I am that I have such a loving and available support system. I am very aware that not everyone has such a support system, and they have to go through many challenges alone, without anyone to share their feelings, triumphs and trials.

I have thought about our clients and how so many of them handle experiences so much more severe than mine without that loving support system. How do they do it? How do they cope with such challenges without anyone helping them through the process?

I have always thought that our clients are the strongest people I have ever met, and my recent experience has affirmed that for me. 

For some people, Hope House may be the only support system that they have.  They look to us for the support and encouragement that others receive from family members and friends. I am so glad that we are there for those who do not have anyone else. 

I cannot imagine going through life without the love and support of my family.  Thankfully, I have that, and knowing that gives me the drive to continue this work so that Hope House is there when needed. No one should have to face life’s challenges alone.


  1. While working in shelter, I have notice that some of the clients have bonded so close. Some of these women have each other for their support system and realize how much they need it and how helpful it is to them. Those women are the ones who seem to be successful at lifting themselves out of their situations. This only goes to show us, these women are compassinate, and realize life does not have to be about violence.

    1. Anon, thanks for this "insider's" comment. It makes all the difference in the world to our clients to have someone else who's going through a similar situation. And many of them will continue to be each other's support system long after they leave shelter.