Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Do You Know a DV Victim?

Are your sister and niece

Can you tell by looking at someone that they are or have been a victim of domestic violence? Absolutely not. Just as you can’t look at someone and know where they are from, or what they do for a living.

Survivors of domestic violence often survive alone and in the privacy of their own homes. It can be so difficult to share their pain and the difficult reality of their family life with others.

Those who have been victimized often feel a sense of shame and embarrassment. To me, the last person who should feel embarrassed is the victim. The one perpetrating the abuse is the one who should be riddled with guilt and shame, but too often that is not the case.
Is your co-worker being

So, how do we know who is being victimized? It’s not that we want to know out of some perverse sense of wanting all the gory details, but from the place of how can I help? What can I do to make their situation better? How do I intervene? What can I say to them? 

These are all questions I hope that everyone is asking themselves about their loved ones and friends. I encourage you to:
  1. Visit our website and learn more about the services Hope House offers so you can share this information. 
  2. Visit, sponsored by the Liz Claiborne Company. It has all kinds of educational information including warning signs to look for.
  3. Call our hotline at 816-461-HOPE (4673) any time day or night. Our advocates can give you advice on how to talk to and help someone you suspect is being abused.
  4. Better yet, encourage the victim/survivor to call us. We won’t try to make them do anything they don’t want to do. We won’t call the police or insist that they come in to shelter. We’re here to help, even if that’s only lending a compassionate ear.


  1. Yes we can not know that whether the person is victim of Domestic violence or not just by seeing him/her. Its true that the pain is inside them only no one can think about it that by which circumstances they have been. Nice post William C. Behrndt

  2. Thanks for the comment, William. We just have to keep our eyes, ears and hearts open so we can recognize when someone we know is going through the pain of victimization. Awareness is the first step.